8 Strategies for forward thinking people leaders
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Our society – and the workplaces that support it – is rapidly evolving when it comes to diverse relationship and family structures, including supporting employees who engage in a form of consensual non-monogamy. This article will unpack the data behind these shifts and explain concrete steps your organization can take to create a safe and inclusive environment for employees from a broad range of family and relationship structures. Dr. Lily will also be hosting a TroopHR Huddle on this topic along with TroopHR member and Ream CEO Alex Savtchenko on 6/13 from 10:00 - 11:00 AM PT.
Source: YouGov 2023
You can safely assume that at least 5% of your workforce would be directly impacted by a decision to proactively support consensually non-monogamous employees. And this is even more true for Gen Z and Millennial employees, who are considerably more likely to identify with this structure. A February 2023 YouGov poll found that one-third of Americans (33%) describe their ideal relationship as something other than complete monogamy, with people under 45 being more likely (43%) to indicate interest in this than other generations. Notably, people are equally likely to practice consensual non-monogamy across religious, geographic, and political groups, meaning that employers nationwide have a strong call to action when it comes to being attentive to the needs of this population.
Despite the prevalence of consensual non-monogamy, there remains significant social stigma attached to disclosing these identities in the workplace. An estimated 67% of people who identify as consensual non-monogamous report experiencing discrimination, with the most common areas being employment, healthcare, housing, and child custody. People also face widespread family rejection and social ostracization. Finally, there are known cases where employers have fired employees who were polyamorous based on their disclosure.
In response to this widespread stigma and discrimination, cities nationwide – including Cambridge, MA and Oakland, CA – have begun to put protections in place prohibiting discrimination on the basis of family and relationship structure. HR Executives will be aided by knowing that the law is trending in this direction, and this may bring up legal compliance that organizations can get ahead of by acting now. While these protections signal a vital step forward, however, they are not yet widespread. As a result, it may be important to acknowledge for your employees that opening up about their identity could have implications for other aspects of their lives, even if they’re safe at work. Adultery is still illegal in 20 states, and many courts do not recognize the distinction between consensual and non-consensual non-monogamy, jeopardizing child custody, divorce, and other critical legal proceedings.
Formal legal protections for people in non-normative relationship structures in the workplace are currently scarce, creating an opportunity for organizations like yours to serve as leaders in this new frontier for civil rights. Organizations including JP Morgan Chase, Dell, Microsoft, and AirBnb have recently led the way, with efforts including adding 'family and relationship structure' to their employee handbooks and nondiscrimination statements as a protected class, creating employee resource sub-groups within the LGBTQ+ ERG, and offering education on this topic to employees and leaders.
Especially in the absence of state or federal laws protecting marginalized groups, employers have a unique opportunity to promote safety and care for these groups and create a culture where it is safe to come out at work. For example, the percentage of Fortune 500 companies with policies protecting gender identity discrimination grew from 3% in 2002 to 83% in 2019, well in advance of updates to state and federal law. Comprehensive LGBTQI+ non-discrimination laws have not only served as a catalyst for economic growth by attracting diverse talent and businesses, but have also had demonstrable positive impacts on the physical and mental well-being of LGBTQI+ individuals, thereby fostering more resilient and inclusive communities. We anticipate the same will be true for consensually non-monogamous people and other people who structure their families and relationships in non-normative ways..
When you make space for people to be open about their family, relationship and care structures, you are opening the door for the large percentage of employees who are living outside the ‘nuclear family’ norm. According to 2020 Census data, only 17.8% of American households have a ‘nuclear family’ structure with two married parents living with children under 18. This means that over 82% of American households live in a different configuration: co-parenting with multiple adults, solo living, living with unmarried partners, living with extended family. By creating space for people to be honest and enthusiastic about their family and relationship structures, you can better understand the benefits, structures, and support that meet the needs of the wide array of families that exist in the United States.
Taken together, the measures can serve as concrete steps towards creating a safe and inclusive atmosphere for all employees, honoring the diversity of family and relationship structures prevalent in today's society.
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